This is when the child learns rules and the consequences of breaking them. They begin to discern between right and wrong, what is real and what is imagined. They begin to individuate their will and sense of self, and to realize they have a choice. This aligns with Erikson’s stage of Industry vs Inferiority the object is to learn competence and develop self-confidence in their abilities or a sense of inferiority when not successful. It also occurs at age 36 when we’re in Erikson’s stage 6 Intimacy vs Isolation and again at age 65 when enter stage 7 Generativity vs Stagnation. The struggle is how to balance our contributions to society, career, and care for the needs of a family. However, family is defined for you, pertaining to those significant personal, private relationships.